Are We Overthinking Everything Guys Say?

  Ok, So guys.  They make us laugh, cry, smile, yell and pull our hair out.  But the question is:

  Is all of this really necessary?

  Us girls have the "Jumping to conclusions" sort of way about ourselves and how we percieve other people's actions and expressions.  Every single girl has done this at least ten times in thier life.  You automatically think that your boyfriend is with another girl just because he doesn't text you back.  Or, you are sitting there crying because your boyfriend said he just wants to be alone. 

  Well, instead of making your own interpretations and jumping to conclusions, maybe we should start taking things literal.  Maybe he didn't text you back because he is busy, or his phone died.  Maybe he wants to be alone because he wants to be alone.  He may have had a busy and draining day and just wants a couple of hours to his self.  It doesn't necessarily means that he is cheating on you or that he is mad at you. 

  This gives you a chance to focus on yourself and really just love your self.

  Just lay in your bed and listen to some music.  Fall into a good book.  Invite a girlfriend over to watch a movie or watch a movie by yourself.  Go for a run or a bike ride. 

  JUST CHILLOUT.

  Calm down and have trust in your man!  If you can't truely trust him, then you shouldn't be with him.  In order to have a life together, with someone, you need to each have your home bases.  He needs to be able to have  guy nights.  You need to be able to have girl nights.

  If you are constantly stuck up eachothers assholes, you are going to get sick of eachother real fast.

  So, Calm down, and be with your guy, let him know how much you love him, have deep conversations and have trust in him.  But, also have time with your friends!

  Song to help with this situation.  This will happen if you don't pay attention to ^^^^.

SHAKE IT OUT

FLORENCE + THE MACHINE

The 'L' Word.

  Alright, I myself have been in this particular prediciment.  I looked on the internet to try and find help and I couldn't find anything.  So, I guess I should write some ways to get through this situation I was recently in.

  So, I have been "talking" to this guy for about a week and I really like him.  And then, he told me that he loved me.  We have talked in person but it hasn't been since the school year.  So you could say it THREW me off guard.

  My response told him that love is a very strong word and that you should only say it if you truely mean it.  And that is 100% the truth in my opinion...  I also said that I hoped he meant this as a friend.  He said that he meant it as a friend but with the potential of something more, but he did mean it.

  I may or may not have made the right decision.  I told him I loved him as a friend.  And, I do care about him.  But LOVE.  It's such a strong word.  And I don't want to get hurt.  I have kind of already been there if you had seen my post from a couple of posts ago.

  So, the question is:  Does he mean it?
  In my opinion, it kind of seems like he might just want to fuck me?  But I don't want to make a mistake. 
  But there is four POSIBILITIES of what he truely means when he says this.

  1)  He truely means it.  This doesn't happen very often at all, but you do have to think  of it as a possibility. 

  2)  He is in love with the IDEA of being in love.  I personally know what that looks like... My parents.

  3)  He is just trying to get into your pants.  This is sad to say, but most of the time, this is the reason that they say it.  And don't think this will happen in each case, because all guys are different.  But you do need to keep your gaurd up!

  4)  He, himself doesn't feel loved.  And in that case, you are in the "potential" of a relashonship with a very damaged guy.  That isn't always a bad thing.  But, that also means that he probably doesn't mean it... He just wants to hear it back.

  IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH HIM!

Make sure that you are so that you don't lead him on and make sure that he loves you too.  Before you make a very horrible decision. 

  Trust me when I say LOVE can be a very sticky situation.  No pun intented.

Here is two songs to help you get through this situation because there is two sides to the situation.

GIVE YOUR HEART A BREAK

     DEMI LAVOTO

TOO CLOSE

ALEX CLARE

Have Trust In Your Fate.

  I DO NOT believe in coincidences.

  I believe that every thing happens for a reason.  There is a reason that you just happened to get sick on the day that you were supposed to go on a date with someone.  Well, I'm not saying that you weren't supposed to be with this particular person, but I don't believe that you were meant to go on this date.

  Imagine that your dream, whatever your dream may be,  as a STAR.  Stars are meant to lead you to wherever you need to go.  And although you may not ever reach that star, it will always lead you to your destiny.

  If you want a relashonship with a boy to work, you have to let the relashonship be.  You can't be texting him every hour and you can't be mind-fucking yourself either. 

  When a guy doesn't text you back right away, he is probably busy?

  Let it BE.

  Let everything flow.  As if it were natural.  If you are supposed to be with him, you will be with him.  Wheather it is in a week, two weeks or a year or 20 years.

  I know it can be hard to tie yourself down in order to not text him.

  So here are a few TIPS to help you entertain yourself.

  Find an online computer game.

  Watch a Jenna Marbles marathon on YouTube.

  Go for a run WITHOUT your cell phone.

  Play around with a piano or guitar.

  In conclusion, you need to take a deep breath and keep calm.  REMEMBER, If it is meant to be, it will happen.

  Here is a song to help you go with the flow:

                              LET IT BE
                 BY:  THE BEATLES

What to do When a Guy is Cheating on his Girlfriend With You..

  Let's just say that there is a reason that the lesbian rates are going up in this country.

  I myself have just found out that this guy that I am "talking to" has a girlfriend.  You may be thinking that I'm PISSED or ANGRY or HURT.  But honestly I am just a little bumbed out because I kinda liked this kid.  I have only known him for about a month and we have hung out alone a couple of times and I thought he seemed really nice. 
 
  So, I have a little idea.  And I got this information from a little movie called "John Tucker Must Die".  If you are familiar with the movie, you get the direction that I'm going in.  If you arn't for some reason.  Familiarize yourself.

  But here are a few tips of things you SHOULDN'T do if you find this out...

  DO NOT tell his girlfriend.  Just don't.  It always comes back to bite you in the butt.

  DO NOT tell him that you know.  He will just move onto the next girl to fuck with her mind.  Remember that you want to teach him a lesson.  Not give him a get out of jail free card.

  DO NOT change your actions towards him.  This will let him know something is up.  If anything, act a little bit nicer.

  DO NOT give him the golden ticket.  That is unless you want crabs.

  Now, here are a few things that you SHOULD do...

  Act as though nothing has changed since you found out. 

  Kiss him if it gets to that point.  But don't get too into it.  Just a peck that lingers for a short while.

  You want to get him wrapped around your finger.  So don't text him back immediatly.  And if he doesn't ask you a question through text, don't text him back at all.  Trust me THIS WORKS.

  Make alot of eye contact with him.  Flutter your eye lashes too!

  Give a reason to maybe say that you hate cheaters.  To make him feel guilty.
 
  Get him to take you out in public.  Watch him squirm.  It is HALARIOUS.

  IF for some reason he ends up breaking up with his girlfriend for you, then you need to breakup with him.  That is unless you havn't kissed or anything because then he hasn't technically cheated on his girlfriend.

  But if you have kissed, make the breakup VERY PUBLIC.  Ruin his reputation.  It is NOT okay for a guy to cheat on ANY woman. 

   SONG TO HELP WITH THIS SITUATION:
    LOVIN', TOUCHIN', SQUEEZIN'
By:  JOURNEY
 

I'm Pretty Sure, That Guys Don't Like That...

  Do you have a Facebook?  How about a Twitter?  If you are old school you might have a Myspace.  If you do, you know how ANNOYING it is to see girls posting statuses, pictures and updates that they think is attractive. 

Posting a picture of you squinting your eyes and sticking your tounge out.
NOT ATTRACTIVE.  Makes you seem desperate if you do this.

Posting a picture of a girl by herself or with her friends lifting thier shirts up to show thier stomachs.
NOT ATTRACTIVE.  It makes you seem like you want attention and don't care if people might percieve you as a slut.

Posting a status about how you can't find the right guy for you because all guys are dicks.  When you are lifting your shirt up in pictures and cursing all over your profile.
NOT ATTRACTIVE.  It makes you KNOWN as someone who is blind to who they really are.

Posting a picture with you leaning over to show your cleavage.
NOT ATTRACTIVE.  It makes you a slut.  Whether you have physically done  anything or not.  It makes people think that you have.

Each of these things have one thing in common.  They all have to do with people having insecurities and in need of attention.  Make people know that you are 100% secure with yourself and that you are beautiful and confident.  BECAUSE YOU ARE. 

Guys don't find these things attractive.  Seeing that you posted a status saying that you just volunteered somewhere or went to a fair of went to a beach seems attractive.  Why?
BECAUSE You are ecxpressing that you are confident with yourself and don't need the attention for all of the wrong reasons.  And in the end, you with get attention in the end for all the right reasons.

How to Get a Guy to Fall in Love.

  I know I probably shouldn't be writing this.  I myself have never had a love.  But I like to think that I have a while.  And I am the "Go-to girl" for advice to give to my friends and it usually works.  So here are some tips and I give you the best of luck in finding your one and only love.
Step #1:
Eye contact!
Whenever you walk past your guy, Give him a quick glimpse in the eyes while having a suddle smile.  Then simply look away with a lingering smile.
Whenever he is talking to you about something, lower your chin and look right into his eyes to let him know you are listening.

Step #2:
Find yourself.
No guy likes it when a girl cakes on makeup.  Find yourself in this process with just adding some blush, covering up those pimples, put a light foundation around yours eyes, and most importantly put mascara on to draw him into your eyes.

Step #3:
Go against the Memo!
Why would a guy go for someone who is a dublicate?  Your fashion is one of the main ways to figure out who you really are and how you express yourself.  BE DIFFERENT.  That way he can notice you.  You also want to emphisize your best features like your booty or your waist.  But don't seem slutty.  Wear belts around your waist or but belts on your jeans to draw his attention.

Step #4:
Body Language.
When you get the chance to stand near him in the lunch line or even walking down the hall, you want to be close but not so close that its creepy!  Maybe brush your fingers along his slowy then let your hand hang.  NEVER cross your arms or he will think that you are not interested.  And when sitting, cross your legs so that they point towards him.  Its a suddle signal.

Step #5:
Talk to him.
Whenever you get the chance to talk to him you want to look away at first then make eye contact and always face your body towards him.  make sure that you dont stutter and flash a closed or slightly open smile towards him every once in a while.  Lean into him.  Let him feel the electricity.

Step #6:
Don't smell rank.
Multiple of these steps express closeness and with that comes how you smell.  You don't want to overwhelm his nose with perfumes.  Focus on spraying down your wrists, neck and chest.  Therefore if you happen to hug, he can smell your yumminess.  And try to find soft perfumes that arn't overwhelming yet delicious.  And use deodorants and DONT USE MINTS!  Mints get the saliva in your mouth circulating which can create bad breath.  Try those portable toothbrushes.

Step #7:
Dates.
When he happens to ask you on a date, try something other than a movie and a bite to eat.  Try out walking downtown or visiting an interesting museum.  First dates can be awkward so do something that can keep you both talking.  Go to a small concert!

Step #8:
Touching hands.
When your hands finally intertwine, you want to keep them moving and not make it awkward.  Twittle your thumbs along his hand.  And every once in a while you want to give his hand a slight squeeze.  The movement of your hands will make sure that they don't get clammy either.

Step #9:
Will he kiss you?
At the right moment, where you feel like you should kiss, you need to make eye contact with him then slowly look at his lips.  Then make your way back to his eyes.  If he dosn't lower in to kiss you, you should lower in.  And kiss him.  Keep your kiss light but lingering.  Don't open your mouth quite yet.  Let him wait.  And when its done go back to making eye contact.  EYE CONTACT IS KEY!

Step #10:
The "L" word.
You have done all of the right steps.  Now, is he in love with you??  Try watching a romatic movie but not the Titantic.  For some reason guys HATE that movie.  Try the Last Song.  After the movie kiss him and excuse yourself to the bathroom to give him some time to think about whether he loves you.  And When he finally says it, kiss him lightly and tell him you love him back.

BOOM.  Your in love.  Im so happy for you! Invite me to the wedding Please?  You will know whether you are in love or not.  Tons of guys will come and go from your heart.  They will make your heart flutter.  Make you smile.  But only one will give you the feeling of you wanting to give everything up for him.  One boy will make you know what you were living for.

Oh Romeo...

In school, we are currently reading William Shakespeare's "Romeo and Juliet". A classic love story. And yet, such a tease.

             Romeo is one man that I have a hard time believing that another exists in this world. But hey, I don't have much expierience in that particular area. You know, I'm not in a terminal death war between two famaly feuds.

             There is that hope within me that says "Hey, maybe he is out there... Somewhere..." And then I slap myself and laugh and say "Haha, No he isn't." Then I go back to crawling on the ground like a narwall. Weird right? I know. But Romeo married Juliet after one day. One day of knowing her he had already fallen in love with her.

             I would like to prepare you guys. Prepare yourselfs that there is no such thing as a Romeo and that you aren't going to find someone that will die at the thought of you dying. Most guys would much rather play Modern Warefare 3 with a bottle of questionable yellow liquid symbolizing thier uncanning laziness. Don't get me wrong, I am sure thier are some really nice guys out there that do love thier wife or girlfriend or blowup doll. Whatever floats his boat. He might say that he loves you everyday and he brings you flowers and kiss you with the most delicate lips. But nothing could ever compare to Romeo... Oh Romeo!

             I would also like to prepare you for something else. You need to prepare yourself if Romeo does exist. Anything is possible. And you might be the one in a trillion people that actually finds a true Romeo. I am not saying you will, but they can't just make this stuff up right? Someone had to of seen this at some point. Right?

You Can Do It.

  He makes my heart flutter.  I take that back.  Whenever I am around him or even begin to think about him, it is as if my heart isn’t even there.  Its gone.  He has taken it.  Im not sure wheather it is what everyone warns you about.  How when your fifteen and someone tells you they love you, you are going to believe them.  He is known for having multiple girlfriends.  I want to be his girlfriend.  He is beautiful.  His eyes could bring anybody and everybody in.  He has done so for me.  We have looked into eachother’s eyes for moments that feel like ages.  Then quickly turn away of course.  They say it only takes ten seconds of insane courage, for something amazing to happen.  I wonder if this were to work in my case.  If it were to work if the next time I see him in school or at the gym, I just walk up to him.  Just walk up to him and tell him how I feel.  Tell him that he makes me crazy and have dreams about him and how he just takes my breath away.  And hope, that he feels the same way for me. 

              There was an experiment where a scientist had taken a cat and placed it in a box with a vial of poison.  This vial of poison would burst open at any random time.  Therefore, you had to think of the cat as both dead and alive.  That is until you were to open the box and see if the cat is alive.  Relationships work the same way.  You will have to think that the “Relationship” is going to fail and succeed until you actually try the relationship.  What is the worst that could happen?  Things not workout, you get over him and move on to the next one.  Not.  The worse thing that could happen is he breaks up with you in the middle of homecoming in front of all of your friends.  Then goes to make out with your best friend and spreads rumors saying that you fucked him and gave him herpes.  That is the worse thing that could happen.  So, it should be okay to be scared to begin a new relationship.  Because things won’t always workout.  Sometimes they will be really fucked up.   

            The question is, should you make the first move?  Should you wait for him to make the first move?  Or should you just play hard to get and act like you aren’t even there?  Why is everything so complicated?  If you like the guy, go talk to him.  Don’t sit there fluttering your eyelashes and twirling your hair while he looks at you.  This could go on for weeks.  Yes, it is cliché for the guys to always make the first move, but girls are always fighting for equalities.  We should be in the army too, we should be president too, we should be able to do this.  And good for you, but you hold the biggest double standard of them all.  Wanting the guy to make the first move and pay for dinner and hold the door open.  Be a mother fucking women and do all of that shit yourself.  You’re a big girl.  You can do it.  So, get of your high horse swagger yourself over to him and say “Hey, how are you doing?” . 

            In order to get the confidence to do this, just count to three.  One, two and three.  Kinda like when you know you have to do something so you just do it.  Like riping off a band-aid.  The worst thing he could think is that you are confident.