Are We Overthinking Everything Guys Say?

  Ok, So guys.  They make us laugh, cry, smile, yell and pull our hair out.  But the question is:

  Is all of this really necessary?

  Us girls have the "Jumping to conclusions" sort of way about ourselves and how we percieve other people's actions and expressions.  Every single girl has done this at least ten times in thier life.  You automatically think that your boyfriend is with another girl just because he doesn't text you back.  Or, you are sitting there crying because your boyfriend said he just wants to be alone. 

  Well, instead of making your own interpretations and jumping to conclusions, maybe we should start taking things literal.  Maybe he didn't text you back because he is busy, or his phone died.  Maybe he wants to be alone because he wants to be alone.  He may have had a busy and draining day and just wants a couple of hours to his self.  It doesn't necessarily means that he is cheating on you or that he is mad at you. 

  This gives you a chance to focus on yourself and really just love your self.

  Just lay in your bed and listen to some music.  Fall into a good book.  Invite a girlfriend over to watch a movie or watch a movie by yourself.  Go for a run or a bike ride. 

  JUST CHILLOUT.

  Calm down and have trust in your man!  If you can't truely trust him, then you shouldn't be with him.  In order to have a life together, with someone, you need to each have your home bases.  He needs to be able to have  guy nights.  You need to be able to have girl nights.

  If you are constantly stuck up eachothers assholes, you are going to get sick of eachother real fast.

  So, Calm down, and be with your guy, let him know how much you love him, have deep conversations and have trust in him.  But, also have time with your friends!

  Song to help with this situation.  This will happen if you don't pay attention to ^^^^.

SHAKE IT OUT

FLORENCE + THE MACHINE

The 'L' Word.

  Alright, I myself have been in this particular prediciment.  I looked on the internet to try and find help and I couldn't find anything.  So, I guess I should write some ways to get through this situation I was recently in.

  So, I have been "talking" to this guy for about a week and I really like him.  And then, he told me that he loved me.  We have talked in person but it hasn't been since the school year.  So you could say it THREW me off guard.

  My response told him that love is a very strong word and that you should only say it if you truely mean it.  And that is 100% the truth in my opinion...  I also said that I hoped he meant this as a friend.  He said that he meant it as a friend but with the potential of something more, but he did mean it.

  I may or may not have made the right decision.  I told him I loved him as a friend.  And, I do care about him.  But LOVE.  It's such a strong word.  And I don't want to get hurt.  I have kind of already been there if you had seen my post from a couple of posts ago.

  So, the question is:  Does he mean it?
  In my opinion, it kind of seems like he might just want to fuck me?  But I don't want to make a mistake. 
  But there is four POSIBILITIES of what he truely means when he says this.

  1)  He truely means it.  This doesn't happen very often at all, but you do have to think  of it as a possibility. 

  2)  He is in love with the IDEA of being in love.  I personally know what that looks like... My parents.

  3)  He is just trying to get into your pants.  This is sad to say, but most of the time, this is the reason that they say it.  And don't think this will happen in each case, because all guys are different.  But you do need to keep your gaurd up!

  4)  He, himself doesn't feel loved.  And in that case, you are in the "potential" of a relashonship with a very damaged guy.  That isn't always a bad thing.  But, that also means that he probably doesn't mean it... He just wants to hear it back.

  IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH HIM!

Make sure that you are so that you don't lead him on and make sure that he loves you too.  Before you make a very horrible decision. 

  Trust me when I say LOVE can be a very sticky situation.  No pun intented.

Here is two songs to help you get through this situation because there is two sides to the situation.

GIVE YOUR HEART A BREAK

     DEMI LAVOTO

TOO CLOSE

ALEX CLARE

Have Trust In Your Fate.

  I DO NOT believe in coincidences.

  I believe that every thing happens for a reason.  There is a reason that you just happened to get sick on the day that you were supposed to go on a date with someone.  Well, I'm not saying that you weren't supposed to be with this particular person, but I don't believe that you were meant to go on this date.

  Imagine that your dream, whatever your dream may be,  as a STAR.  Stars are meant to lead you to wherever you need to go.  And although you may not ever reach that star, it will always lead you to your destiny.

  If you want a relashonship with a boy to work, you have to let the relashonship be.  You can't be texting him every hour and you can't be mind-fucking yourself either. 

  When a guy doesn't text you back right away, he is probably busy?

  Let it BE.

  Let everything flow.  As if it were natural.  If you are supposed to be with him, you will be with him.  Wheather it is in a week, two weeks or a year or 20 years.

  I know it can be hard to tie yourself down in order to not text him.

  So here are a few TIPS to help you entertain yourself.

  Find an online computer game.

  Watch a Jenna Marbles marathon on YouTube.

  Go for a run WITHOUT your cell phone.

  Play around with a piano or guitar.

  In conclusion, you need to take a deep breath and keep calm.  REMEMBER, If it is meant to be, it will happen.

  Here is a song to help you go with the flow:

                              LET IT BE
                 BY:  THE BEATLES